Marc Azoulay is a psychotherapist in private practice in Boulder, CO and the current President of the Four Corners Group Psychotherapy Society. He helps clients that have a harmful relationship to their inherent aggression or who are stuck in the pain of their repetition compulsions. Many of his clients struggle with addiction, trauma, and self-harm. Marc helps people uncover and destroy the unconscious barriers that cripple them by using a blend of Modern Psychoanalytic and Contemplative Psychotherapy. His therapeutic style can best be described as irreverent with surprising moments of profound depth.
Entrepreneurial Role Models:
When business started difficulties overcame:
“the main thing I had to overcome was shyness… And I had to be okay putting myself out there, I had to be okay doing sales but also really making connections with people and creating lasting relationships… I wasn’t good at connecting with other people… I had a pretty significant stutter, I talked mainly through texting or through chatting on Instant Messenger and I wasn’t confident in public speaking, I wasn’t confident in connecting… The entrepreneurial journey paired with my recovery journey as well really, really helped me to grow in those places and to be more confident and be okay having attention show on me. That was tough. There was a lot of self-judgement, a lot of fear, really, really old primal fear. The only way over it was to go through it so I had to keep feeling that fear and to keep pushing myself”…[Listen for More]
Favourite Books:
- Iron John: A Book About Men Book by Robert Bly
- Hannibal and Me: What History’s Greatest Military Strategist Can Teach Us About Success and Failure Book by Andreas Kluth
Favourite Quote:
If you can keep your head when all about you
Are losing theirs and blaming it on you,
If you can trust yourself when all men doubt you,
But make allowance for their doubting too;
If you can wait and not be tired by waiting,
Or being lied about, don’t deal in lies,
Or being hated, don’t give way to hating,
And yet don’t look too good, nor talk too wise:If you can dream—and not make dreams your master;
If you can think—and not make thoughts your aim;
If you can meet with Triumph and Disaster
And treat those two impostors just the same;
If you can bear to hear the truth you’ve spoken
Twisted by knaves to make a trap for fools,
Or watch the things you gave your life to, broken,
And stoop and build ’em up with worn-out tools:If you can make one heap of all your winnings
And risk it on one turn of pitch-and-toss,
And lose, and start again at your beginnings
And never breathe a word about your loss;
If you can force your heart and nerve and sinew
To serve your turn long after they are gone,
And so hold on when there is nothing in you
Except the Will which says to them: ‘Hold on!’If you can talk with crowds and keep your virtue,
Or walk with Kings—nor lose the common touch,
If neither foes nor loving friends can hurt you,
If all men count with you, but none too much;
If you can fill the unforgiving minute
With sixty seconds’ worth of distance run,
Yours is the Earth and everything that’s in it,
And—which is more—you’ll be a Man, my son!”If— By Rudyard Kipling
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Best Advice to Other Entrepreneurs:
“connecting with other people that get it: I think that’s a key one. But I think another one that I would add is trying to understand your past, understand your stories. There is a lot of power in the unconscious part of our mind, there is a lot of power in this idea of a heroes journey. In a lot of mythology there is this idea that a hero has an early wound. And for a lot of us that happens in our childhood, maybe it’s trauma, maybe it’s where you are born. And in order to be a hero they go through this whole process where the wound becomes the strength and one is able to incorporate it. And I think if entrepreneurs can really take the time either through psychotherapy or coaching or just through reading books or doing self inquiry they can start to understand their life story and draw power from the things they are ashamed of because everybody has those things. But there is a way to reframe it, a way to fail through it and process it and those become our biggest strengths and those become what eventually contributes to bring our genius out into the world”…[Listen for More]
More About Marc Azoulay:
Neil’s Quote at the Beginning:
“Discipline is just choosing between what you want NOW and what you want MOST. Choose wisely!” Unknown
Other Quotes From the Chat with Marc Azoulay:
- “I would encourage people when they are starting out to find a group of people that are in your corner”
- “it’s not really about winning or losing it’s actually about the journey, is about challenging oneself, it’s about learning, and it’s about one not getting destroyed by failure and two not succumbing to hubris when you succeed, and it’s about continuing to be setting, continuing to move forward with the mission and the vision, and live a life of challenge and live a life of a warrior, and live a life of honour ”
- “it’s really having a group of people who are ideally on the same path or on the same wavelength or supportive of your wavelength”
- “I like the people who don’t sugar coat how hard the work is”
- “the early failures make me and other entrepreneurs who we are. I wouldn’t want to insulin myself from the failures because that’s an important skill of entrepreneurs how to work with failure and not take it too personally. And two how to extract lessons from them. The ability to fail over and over again really helped me with that skill”
- “my classmates or my colleagues that are still in the mental-health world or that are stuck in these more traditional job situations they are not happy, they are not happy people, they envy me because my success in a way I they could have made the jump to and they are then rooting for my failure”
- “the stress and the laughter of an entrepreneur are unique to this and other people unfortunately they just don’t get it”
- “People go through struggle and there is a way out of struggle”
- “removing choice and creating systems helped me to be more effective”
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